Permission to Be Nice

I started going to a therapist to help me with a sticky relationship situation - torn between two lovers.  During one session, I said, "oh, wait, I know...I need to not be so nice...I've got to work on that."  The therapist said, "no, I want you to be exactly who you are.  If it makes you comfortable to be nice, go for it, own it, revel in it." 

Ahhhhh, permission to be nice - it was the most relieving thing he could have said!